Cut a piece of 100 grit sandpaper the size of the stone you will ultimately use to back off the iron when honing. Wet the stone, lay the paper on the stone, flatten the iron on that. Flood the stone with water, or wash it in the sink to remove any stray grit from the sandpaper. Back will be flat as the stone. No more, no less.
Works the same on oilstones, but dribble a little oil on the stone and spread it evenly over the entire face of the stone to suck the sandpaper down to it.