I am building my bench currently and I only mill what I can work with that day (unless it's like 3 or 4 6' long pieces of 5/4).
I glue them up and I only flatten the faces that are getting glued. I didn't make sure they were parallel or anything like that, and I didn't have to worry about the "slinky" issue. Granted, I have a 1/4" gap on either side, but this will be filled in with Brazilian Cherry or something after I knock out a 3/4" or 1" wide channel to slip the accent wood into.
I'm a newbie myself, and if I can do it without much issue, it can't be that hard to do.
The Barefoot Woodworker.
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