Originally Posted by
george wilson
Brian,I must say that I just do not participate in things that I truly suck at. What is the point? I am not a good basketball player,in spite of being quite tall,so I haven't played it since the last time I HAD to in high school physical education classes. I can't swim worth 2 cents. My bones are too heavy to allow me to float. I never could pass swimming in college Phys ed. I never ever swim now.
I find it difficult to see why someone who is just terrible at some activity would persist in it. For me,at least,with lack of an ability comes lack of interest.
In college,we had a guy who was so miserable at doing skilled work of any kind (In the Industrial Arts program we were in) He just quit,and pursued some other field. All my fellow students were retired military guys going to college on the G.I. bill. I was the only student fresh out of high school. I would have thought that a middle aged,graying guy would already have found out that he was not cut out for teaching woodworking.
The old saying "If you can't stand the heat,get out of the kitchen" SORT of fits here.
That's great for you. But if everyone thought that way, most of us wouldn't try anything much beyond what we learned as children or young adults. As anyone that's passed their 30s knows, it's much harder to pick things up quickly when you're older and become relatively good at it... I for one am proud to be quite ignorant in that at 50 I will give most anything a go and not worry about how well I pull it off. I don't rate myself against anyone else, my only criteria is that I at least make small improvements... When I stop improving maybe it's time to find something else to do, but then maybe not if I'm still enjoying it. I played in some sports in Australia where we for the most part sucked really bad, but we enjoyed it, we kept in good shape as a result, so we didn't care. And more importantly no one else cared. I wouldn't change that for anything. If I took the stance of I'm no good at that so it's best I leave it alone I would have probably stayed on the couch and wasted all that time away.
My wife took up drums 3 years ago. Thankfully she didn't measure herself against the 12 year olds also taking lessons that in only a few months were banging out some very complex beats... She kept it up because she always wanted to play drums. She's not that good, and she knows that but she enjoys it.
Last edited by Brian Ashton; 05-24-2014 at 4:53 PM.
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