David, I think I'm going to just remake the piece and keep the tails a bit thicker. The last thing I want is to lose more tails during a test fit. It shouldn't take too long... I did get that same advice when I took the class on dovetails. Chamfer the inner edges to make assembly easier. They're not visible, so who really cares?
As for something shiny, well... We're on a tight budget this year. Hence I'm making this out of material I already have (poplar), rather than get something else. She'll understand not getting a shiny/sparkly item accompanying this gift.