I totally agree. I do bring samples of about 10 of the most common ones. Generally my customers either have a specific product in mind or they select a color and then a finish from the samples. This whole issue is because they originally selected the birch as a material and the white pigmented lacquer as the finish and then 3 weeks in asked if there was a way to highlight more of the grain detail. The only possible solution that i could see was to possibly alter the finish as they would not have been willing to pay for the new materials and added time to change it and i certainly am not going to.
This is why i try to get my customers to spend some time finding examples of what they like before we finalize details. I would say that 10% of my customers dont do this and go into it expecting me to tell them what they want. I find this to be very difficult as it usually results in multiple shop drawings and issues like this.
Im trying very hard to fully transition to strictly custom work and not have to do any more renovation work. At this point whenever i get a call from a customer that wants custom work and is willing to spend the money i try to be as accommodating as possible but i cant afford to lose half of the project cost for a request made this late in the game. Does this seem unreasonable? Seriously please let me know if it does.