No worries Paul, it's all good It's easy to read the written word so many ways and not seeing that face saying those words, it's often difficult to catch the wink in the eye when it's said.
I've always said that if people were sitting across the table, enjoying a cup of coffee or cold beer, most of the huge disagreements on the internet wouldn't happen, because you'd see the grin on the face or you'd instantly know when you said something out of line and you'd make it right.
I'm sorry for your family situation. Having just lost several people dear to me, all in less than 8 weeks time, I feel for you. It's always a sad thing, but also a happy thing. Happy for them, sad for us. Living through that still sucks, and knowing they are better off, doesn't mean a lot when you just miss them and want them back. So take care of yourself, take care of them, and make sure they know how much you love them.