Wow!!!
When I posted, I thought I would only get a few responses, so I thank each and every one of you that took the time to respond to my problem.
I discussed this with my wife and son. Many of your points were brought up and are quite relevant.
1) Chain of command. My wife, a former teacher made it clear to me that there is nothing worse than skipping the chain of command. Kudo's to all of those who brought that to my attention.
2) Talk to the coach first. I attempted to do that this morning, but he was, before school even started, out with the 7th and 8th grade football team. That's Texas, and dedication on his part that I respect. I was also glad to see them practicing in the relative cool of the day, as opposed to the afternoon.
3) Punishment for being slow. I agree with most of the folks who think this is not right, and that the winners should be rewarded instead. I was very torn about how to handle this. My son does not wish to be "singled out". He has only had to run one day in a week, and in other activities, he is not always on the losing team. My wife feels that if he only has to do extra push ups and sit ups once a week, we should be ok with that. I reluctantly agree with her. If it was extra laps, I would be much more concerned, due to the asthma issue. For now we are going to monitor this, and see how it goes. Yes, I feel like I am letting the coach slide, but my son and wife don't want to turn the coach against my son when the school year has just started.
4) What did we do? For now, we sent a carefully worded email, informing the coach of our son's condition (in case he didn't know). We explained that on certain days he would not be able to keep up, and that if he asks to go to the nurse for a treatment, he should be allowed to go immediately. We received what I think is a very satisfactory response, with the coach saying that my son's health is paramount. I am very relieved to hear that.
5) I know my son with never be the star football player, but I don't want him to be a couch potato either. This summer we started with barbells to build his upper body strength. He seems to like the weight lifting, and has moved up from 5 to 8 lbs, and I think is close to going to 10 lbs. It does not seem like much, but he is skin and bones. He says he can tell a difference. Time will tell. We also do Boy Scouts as our extracurricular activity, which includes some hiking, and someday, backpacking. I hope and pray that one day he will grow out of his asthma, as so many parents have said happened with their children.
Thanks again for all of your posts. I know I don't post as much as when the Creek was smaller, but I still try to read and keep up with what is going on here. Your assistance in the matter is very much appreciated by my wife, myself, and my son. Thank you all.
Martin, Granbury, TX
Student of the Shaker style