so here's my long winded rant about current building practices, not aimed entirely at you but your post is the one that got my brain smoking. it's not your fault, after all, you've been duped by shady builders like everyone else.
no offense to you or your sister but seams in the middle of walls and edge butted moldings are not 'high end'. so that isn't the only ride she was taken for
. there are alot of modern building practices sold as 'high end' that are absolutely, positively, not. nor is MDF a solution to poor practices and design.
caps or bases that are to join on edge should be in opposing rabbets not butted edge to edge. the cap or base should be toenailed to the rabbet on the piece it is joined to, that way the path of least resistance is into the joint, not away from it. caulk cannot fix this, caulk used for such a thing is a patchwork solution to poor design and fit designed to work until the check clears and not much longer. the only proper use of caulk is to seal edge to wall, and only that because walls aren't plastered anymore like they used to be.
in addition to all of the above, no single run should be longer than the boards you can source. if there's a 35 foot run of wall without a break in the molding it's a badly designed room. that space should be divided by a door, a bay window, a cabinet, something. 'open floor plan' is another modern scam to eliminate doors and moldings and thus build things cheaper. and finger jointed moldings aren't a solution to that. you can't join boards of the same thickness end to end on an unstable substrate and have them stay that way over time, no matter how you cut the ends. if this was possible no one would buy lumber in longer than truck-bed lengths.
also, 15 gauge finish nails are not sufficient to hold such large moldings if the walls aren't perfectly flat. the solution is to use larger, rougher nails or trim screws, and more of them. the conversation would go like...
trim 'carpenter': but i can't use my nailgun and can't trim this house in 3 days.
i know, i'll give them a long list of excuses about how you "can't do this" and "can't do that" and so forth and so on. your response would be: i get it, you don't like the fact that you can't use your nailgun and you won't be out of here in a week. get over it, or go bid on another job.
there are thousands of examples of centuries+ old buildings in which the moldings are just as snug as they were when they were originally hung and finished. and the people that trimmed those buildings didn't have MDF or caulk, and didn't have nailguns to shoot a room full of moldings onto the wall with in 10 minutes.
they did have..
1) properly designed multi-part moldings that were fit to pull together, rather than pull apart.
2) fasteners sufficient to hold said moldings in place, not a caulk gun full of liquid nails.
3) the time to not just cut/shoot/paint but to back prime/seal every piece before it was hung, thus keeping it more stable through the seasons.
emulating cheap building practices because cheap builders do it isn't a solution to said cheap building practices. demanding better of people and materials is the solution.
but that will cost more!
yes it will cost more. but it will actually be 'high end', not just low end with fatter particle board.
i can't wait either, but i bet i'm going to have to.
that said, vinyl is not a solution either. vinyl expands and contracts with temperature changes more than wood does with moisture changes. the only person that vinyl benefits is the builder, one less contractor (no paint).